Thursday, December 22, 2011

Black Sheep

I look back at my friends and co-workers who had numerous sibling in the family, and it seems that one becomes estranged or decides they do not want to be a part of the family anymore. They become unavailable for family functions and/or stopped being sociable. At times, a spouse or fiancé influence their new thoughts about family members. Other times it was only their selfishness or perceived feeling of not being treated equally. They operate on blame and excuses, but ultimately it was their decision to alienate themselves.
 For the longest time I thought my family was immune to this situation. However, over the past few years I have watched it develop with one of my sisters and her husband.

Truthfully, if these individuals were not family they would never be friends. They would simply be people passing through our lives.

 This year the holiday is a good reminder and it reinforces my belief. I will leave the door open for their return, although I am done wasting time and energy on those who have anointed themselves the victims.     


A Doc 2 Be said...

I hope you have a Merry Christmas!!!

Like a good little lone pair, maybe they'll find the right place to land one day.

Cartoon Characters said...

wow. Are you me? Because I could have written the EXACT same post. I thought nothing could get in the way of our family being together.

Not now. I feel the same as you. If they weren't related to me, I wouldn't have them as friends.

Sad but true.